Sup y'all... Its been a minute since I last posted ... Ok maybe more than a minute but I'm back from what I would like to call a holiday but it wasn't though. Anyway, I'm back.

You ever have the feeling that you have worked so hard and for so long on some project that is not forthcoming with positive results that you just want to give up? Have you ever waited a while for something that never showed up that you decide to stop waiting or have you tried something which failed and required you to start from the beginning and you just quit?

All these questions can fit into m any different scenarios apart from working, waiting and trying but they all have something in common. Making people want to give up after being disappointed by the outcome of what it was they were striving for. As always, I like to get personal on my blog even though I don't go into too much detail. Yes, I have been in these situations in the past and yes, in some situations, I have given up. Some, I regretted but not for long and some just died away. Maybe they didn't carry that much importance to be regretted but I'll never know.

We see examples everyday of people who give up when the struggle becomes more than they can bear but as I always say, I dislike talking about the negatives. We also do see examples of people who continue to strive even after disappointment upon disappointment. Lebron James is an example of someone who has been disappointed so many times (and I know that some of y'all reading this got nothing but hate for him. Lol) but he continued to strive and work harder and changed things about him and finally reaped the fruits of his hard work. Another example is Jennifer Hudson. Y'all know her story. Look where she is now. Bill Gates had a failed business but did not give up and now, there is Microsoft. Oprah was once fired from her job. Steven Spielberg? Everybody knows Steven Spielberg!!! He was rejected from The University of Southern California School of Theater, Film and Television THREE times but did he give up? You tell me. Basketball stars have been entrusted to take winning shots and missed but it never stopped them from trying again. I can go on and on about important figures who have failed in more than one way but never gave up and turned out to be huge successes in their endeavors. I know I said I won't go into details about myself but this is one story that never ceases to amaze me. I was so excited about coming to study in the U.S.A only to have my dreams cut short by the almighty American embassy on Three occasions! That's correct! I got denied a student visa three times but as fate would have it, I now hold a blue document which many consider makes one a citizen of the world. I didn't give up! I always have that in the back of my mind when something goes wrong or I fail at something very important. All these examples are examples of risk takers and people who have gone so far only to be disappointed but never ashamed to try again until they got it right.

Truth is that life is all about risk taking and we all know that risks could either yield negative or positive results and most, if not all of us are always guilty of expecting positive results and when that does not happen, we get scared to try again. I ain't a preacher and as stupid as this may sound, I suggest that we create a little room for failure so we are not disappointed when it does happen and usually, those who are not afraid to fail usually garner the most success. Not everyone who is on the top of their game got there with success after success. If you look at history, most of the success stories you see are individuals who were faced with tough obstacles. I must point out that there are warning signs for some things we try to do that do not work in our favor that also suggest that is not what we are meant to do. Basically, this is where common sense comes in to help us decide if said project is of any benefit to us or not. In this case, it is not a matter of giving up but walking away from something that wouldn't help you in anyway.

Nobody likes to fail but I would just like to point out that it is okay to fail as long as you try again, failure is sometimes just the first step to success, life is all about taking risks, if you are not taking risks, then frankly, you are not living. Never ever give up on something that you truly believe in.

As long as you are not afraid to fail, you always have a chance to succeed....

BigTyme Out