How would you describe your happy self? Accomplished? Satisfied? Wealthy? Healthy? Or any other term that puts a smile on your face? Cool! I honestly do not see anything wrong with these terms but my question really is that do these things make you happy and then you stay happy or do you experience what I like to call "One Time Happiness"??? Sometimes, what actually makes you happy at a certain point in time can not continue to keep you happy unfortunately.
Don't get me wrong now, I believe one can stay happy after attaining a certain level of success but its a crazy world we live in and there are always factors lurking around the corner to try and steal your happiness from you. Now, I won't go all out and say I am the happiest person on earth, I definitely am not accomplished yet and I also won't say I don't get stressed out but I can say I have my ways of getting around negative factors to maintain my current level of happy.
I like being happy!!! Being happy is a wonderful feeling and you should never let anyone take that from you. I feel like I wanna make others happy especially when I am experiencing high levels of happiness. (Yes, I am of the opinion that happiness has its levels and quantities although there is that happiness that can't be quantified and I strive to reach that one day but for now, I keep striving)
I feel good today. I was feeling good this morning but I am feeling even better this afternoon and I credit that to a post sent to me by a good friend of mine ... scratch that.... a best friend of mine. And I must say that it is what inspired my post today and since I am feeling real good, I would like to share some tips on how I personally handle the armies of negativity when they come attacking at my doorstep. I would try to be as general as possible cuz I'm pretty sure what works for me might be different for others. Here goes ....
Notice how I tend to stay away from using the word "sad" to describe feelings cuz I feel like even the saddest people, have a tiny ounce of happiness in them and once that is discovered and tapped into, they can become glowing sources of happiness.
Water: Ah Yes! Liquid of Life. Had to give this one priority. It never fails to calm me down when I feel overwhelmed by an event. Especially when its a chilled glass too... Trust me, it works wonders... Although some friends of mine would disagree with me and say another form of liquid solves all problems. I would agree with them maybe on a Friday or Saturday night ...
Stay Thankful: Whatever it is that happens in your life that tries to hinder your happiness, always remember that it could always have been worse so always accept the situation IF it can't be changed and be thankful. I like to think being thankful is a step in the right direction at actually tackling whatever entity it is that is trying to draw you down. One could also say it encourages you to not want to get to that "worse" stage that it could have been.
Get Busy!!!: Yup! And you can take this in any context that you want to!!! Haha! Okay seriously though, engage yourself in some activity that takes your mind off things... Take a walk, watch a movie, sing, play an instrument (i love my piano), play a game, read a book, workout ... just engage your senses and you'd be surprised that even though you might still be bothered by a situation, you aren't bothered as much and as usual, it can also help in making you think clearly in your quest to battle the challenge.
Do NOT pass the buck: Never blame your situation on the actions of someone else. Never. Trust me! It will only go downward from there.... Trying to justify the source of whatever challenge you are facing is a step in the wrong direction and in such situations, your level of happiness starts to diminish. Try tackling a challenge head on especially when interacting with others. You will arrive at solutions faster and that way, everyone remains happy. The same also goes for everyone tackling individual challenges, don't go back looking for the cause but go forward looking for a solution. I am going to go ahead and add here that you should not also dwell on a challenge too much. It is an ultimate solution to keeping your happy levels low. Don't dwell on the situation.
Talk to Someone: Don't bottle it all up inside. Let someone know what's going on. Let off some steam... Yell if you have to. Just Vent. It takes a little pressure off you...
and Last but definitely very Vital
Pray: I don't think I need to elaborate any further on prayer and its power.
As usual, I will always throw it out there that these are the things that work for me. With a little tweaking here and there, I believe it could also work for someone else. Life is always gonna throw stuff at us, and not on purpose either.... Or maybe it is on purpose because it is a means to test us all and see how we stand in the face of trials and tribulations with the sole goal of making us stronger. Do well on the test and you get stronger and ready to face another test and if you don't do well .... Well, keep trying cuz there are always gonna be obstacles and stumbling blocks and there really is no turning back...
I hope we all achieve our desired levels of happy and continue to rise from there ...
BigTyme Out...
Very nice write up.
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed this! And this is absolutely professional: good opening, transitions, and common terminology used to relate to a mass audience. Thumbs up!
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